kids and technologyYou only have to go to a restaurant for lunch on a Saturday to see how this has become commonplace: children eating with their mobile phones or tablets.Yes, it is understandable, parents need a moment of peace, conversation with our partner or friends, and our son can not stand two hours sitting in a chair without moving.When he has already cried a couple of times, we give him the cell phone, which we know calms him down, and everyone calms down.This situation not only occurs when we go out to eat at restaurants, we also use the mobile or tablet at home, when our child does not want to eat.In both cases, we have solved the problem in the short term, but what are the consequences of this practice in the long term?Although in many families, the mobile or tablet have become just another guest at their tables, this practice has consequences that we should be aware of.We review them with the help of psychologist Rafa Guerrero and psychologist Úrsula Perona.Mothers and mothers, on many occasions, use mobile phones, tablets and also television, as "emotional pacifiers".This is how psychologist Rafa Guerrero explains it: “We believe, intentionally and unconsciously, that by giving our son the cell phone so as not to prolong his tantrum or sadness any longer, we are doing him a great favor.And of course it is not.If every time he has a bad day or feels an unpleasant emotion, I give him the mobile or tablet, I am emotionally anesthetizing him.We are missing a great opportunity for him to connect with how unpleasant it is to feel fear or sadness, or even get bored and develop internal elements to calm down."If our children don't learn to calm themselves, they will always seek calm outside, in other elements, in this example it may be a device, but tomorrow it could be drugs, food..."Rafa relates the calm that we provide our children with external elements, in this case devices, with addiction.If our children do not learn to calm down by themselves, they will always seek calm outside, in other elements, which in this example may be a device, but tomorrow it could be drugs, food...Although it may seem unrelated, the psychologist Úrsula Perona warns us that "if we eat with the television or the telephone, we are less aware of our sensations of satiety, and we may eat food automatically, without paying attention to whether we are still really hungry.We eat mindlessly.So its use during meals is related to being overweight.”On the other hand, especially in the little ones, it can have the opposite effect, causing them to get distracted and not eat.In any case, the Spanish Association of Primary Care Pediatrics (AEPap), in its Decalogue of a healthy diet, explicitly discourages the use of technology while children eat.“Eating is a social act, it is not merely about eating food.It is an occasion to dialogue, to share, to receive and give support, to learn and to teach.If we use technology, we lose all these opportunities.The mobile completely isolates us from the people we are with.While we look at the phone, we lose the possibility of interacting with others” reminds us Úrsula."Eating is a social act, however, the mobile completely isolates us from the people we are with."Let's think about it, in the hectic pace that we have, often lunch or dinner is the only time we have to spend quality time with our loved ones.If we allow the use of mobile phones, we lose this opportunity.It hinders communication, emotional connection, and affective relationships.Many mothers and fathers complain that their children only eat if they have a mobile or tablet in front of them and, although they would like to change the situation, they do not know how to do it.And your tests with these 4 tips?Is a 2-year-old child capable of sitting in a chair for 2 hours without moving?That is what we mothers and fathers often expect when we go out to eat at a restaurant with our young children.But it's impossible.Such a young child needs to move freely, investigate all the stimuli that come from around him... Therefore, the first step is to empathize with our children and understand that it is impossible for them to remain "immobile" for two hours, while we enjoy a meal calm and quiet.What can we do about this situation?Eat in less time and then go to a park or an open area where our child can run, play... Sometimes, the best way to avoid a tantrum is to anticipate the situation.If we know that at 60 minutes our son is "climbing through the walls", we avoid longer meals.If you really want to eat at home without technological devices, put a rule that establishes it.“The rules, for our children to comply with them, must be clear and always complied with.If we make exceptions, our children won't know which days they can use the tablet and which days they can't, and they will ask for it every day.When we don't give it to them, they will get angry”, reminds us the founder of the school for families 'Relájate y educa' Amaya de Miguel.Therefore, clear and firm rules.“It is useless that one day it is convenient for us to give him the tablet because I am in a hurry, I give it to him.The norm will have lost value and our children will not know which map to follow”.On many occasions, it is about changing a family habit, not just the child's.Probably the whole family has that custom.If we do not change the habit at home, it will be difficult to demand it only from the child.Therefore, we are the first ones who have to comply with the rule of not using the mobile during the meal, and set an example.If during the meal we are tense, we do not speak, we only scold them because they do not finish the food on the plate, the "meal time" will become an ordeal for our children.And we want just the opposite, to eliminate technological devices to have a good time with the family.Many mothers and fathers complain that their children only eat if they have a mobile or tablet in front of them and, although they would like to change the situation, they do not know how to do it.And your tests with these 4 tips?Is a 2-year-old child capable of sitting in a chair for 2 hours without moving?That is what we mothers and fathers often expect when we go out to eat at a restaurant with our young children.But it's impossible.Such a young child needs to move freely, investigate all the stimuli that come from around him... Therefore, the first step is to empathize with our children and understand that it is impossible for them to remain "immobile" for two hours, while we enjoy a meal calm and quiet.What can we do about this situation?Eat in less time and then go to a park or an open area where our child can run, play... Sometimes, the best way to avoid a tantrum is to anticipate the situation.If we know that at 60 minutes our son is "climbing through the walls", we avoid longer meals.If you really want to eat at home without technological devices, put a rule that establishes it.“The rules, for our children to comply with them, must be clear and always complied with.If we make exceptions, our children won't know which days they can use the tablet and which days they can't, and they will ask for it every day.When we don't give it to them, they will get angry”, reminds us the founder of the school for families 'Relájate y educa' Amaya de Miguel.Therefore, clear and firm rules.“It is useless that one day it is convenient for us to give him the tablet because I am in a hurry, I give it to him.The norm will have lost value and our children will not know which map to follow”.On many occasions, it is about changing a family habit, not just the child's.Probably the whole family has that custom.If we do not change the habit at home, it will be difficult to demand it only from the child.Therefore, we are the first ones who have to comply with the rule of not using the mobile during the meal, and set an example.If during the meal we are tense, we do not speak, we only scold them because they do not finish the food on the plate, the "meal time" will become an ordeal for our children.And we want just the opposite, to eliminate technological devices to have a good time with the family.Who we are Publicity RSS Legal warning Privacy policy and cookies Privacy Preferences Hiring conditionsOther websites of Prensa Ibérica Media:Buscandorespuestas.com Cartoon Network Used Car BuyBest Cuore Newspaper Córdoba Newspaper of Girona Newspaper of Mallorca Newspaper of Ibiza El Día de Tenerife Sport The Newspaper of Aragón The Newspaper of Catalonia The Newspaper of Extremadura The Newspaper Mediterráneo Faro de Vigo Neomotor Formula1 Beautiful Iberempleos Information Information TV The Chronicle of Badajoz The New Spain The Opinion of A Coruña The Opinion of Malaga The Opinion of Murcia The Opinion The Mail of Zamora The Province Diario de Las Palmas Levante El Mercantil Valenciano Levante TV Empordà Christmas Lottery Mallorca Zeitung Neox Kidz Goya Awards Oscar 2022 Regió7 Stilo Superdeporte Environment Trends21 Tucasa Travel Woman Cambalache Iberpisos